Yesterday at work we were discussing an ex-colleague (Jane) who left about 6 months ago. Laura had met up with her and said that Jane was a bit disappointed that Caroline (who she lived nearby) had not been in touch since she had left. (still with me?)
This conversation got me thinking about whether it was fair of Jane to complain about Caroline when she could have just as easily got in touch with her. (now I've lost you!)
What is the etiquette here? Is the onus on the person remaining employed to keep in contact with the ex-employee - or does it illustrate that the 'friendship' was a wee bit on the shallow side in the first place?
An old school friend of mine wrote me a letter recently complaining I hadn't been in touch for ages. In fact if we are going to be picky I had written to her last - and in the last year she could easily have contacted me if she wanted to. I think I am an easy person to push on a guilt trip. Which reminds me - there's another friend (if she still counts me as one) who I said I'd ring back next week - about 6 months ago....
4 comments:
Umm, tricky one! On one hand I'd say that if you are true friends then the amount of time left between contacting each other wouldn't matter. You would both understand how busy each other are and just appreciate the contact when you each have it - no matter who instigates it. Then again, if you're great friends, is it a case of finding time to stay in contact? Me, I would probably fall into the first category!
Spookily friend who I said would ring back in a week rang me the same night as I blogged. She seemed to have forgotten my empty promise so think I got away with than one! Note to self - must try harder..
I keep calling back here and see you're still discussing that girl Jane!
Been very busy lately - far too busy to blog...
Post a Comment